I like to help as many people as possible but sometimes my therapy isn’t suitable.
I am not medically qualified and you must not take this as medical advice or a diagnosis.
Let’s look at why sometimes I’m not the best person to help you and how to find help.
Epilepsy and Asthma
You have to be careful using hypnosis if you have either of these. It’s even more important when doing therapy online because I won’t be there to help you.
For epilepsy, there is a chance you could experience a fit. You must check with a doctor first before contacting me. You can see the rules for driving with epilepsy in the UK here.
For Asthma, hypnosis can potentially bring on an attack. You must check with a doctor first and have someone present in a session who can help in an emergency.
Mental health issues
If you have common problems like occasionally feeling depressed or general anxiety then I can still help you.
More serious mental health issues such as Schizophrenia and Bipolar are contraindications of hypnosis. That means using my methods could make those problems worse.
If you have serious mental health issues or any thoughts of self-harm or suicide you need to contact your doctor for advice.
Current relationship issues
My therapy is less likely to work if you are currently in an unhappy or abusive relationship.
If you’ve had a bad relationship that has since ended, that is different and I can help.
This is because the work I do involves delving into your past to find an old event that is now coming out when you drive. A past bad relationship could be the event we’re looking for but with a current bad relationship, there is no past event as it’s happening right now.
Examples of relationship issues
Client A has driving anxiety and the memory that comes up is of an ex-partner saying they’re useless and will never do anything with their life. We visit that, change it and they can drive.
Client B is in an unhappy relationship with a partner who drinks heavily and is physically abusive. They hate even being at home and it’s affecting their whole life.
I can help client A because their problem comes from an isolated past event.
I can’t help client B because their issues aren’t down to a past event and counselling or another form of therapy is more appropriate.
As another example, people have contacted me saying their partner is beating them. That is not down to a past event so I can’t help. It’s a current issue and needs a different approach such as counselling.
What does my relationship have to do with driving?
Your relationship issues probably are the driving anxiety.
You know how you don’t have to think about driving and it all happens on autopilot? That’s because your subconscious mind is doing it.
When you open that door to your subconscious by driving, other problems such as your relationship issues can come out. Driving is one of the best ways of hypnotising yourself and accessing all of your problems. That’s why so many people drive crazily (they’re experiencing issues without knowing it). It’s also how you gave yourself driving anxiety (you hypnotised yourself when driving and attached an old emotion to it).
Even if it’s not the cause of the driving anxiety, I have found you often can’t get past the relationship issues to get to the driving problems. It’s as though the relationship issue is bigger and every time we start going into your mind and looking for the driving anxiety, the relationship issue comes up and wants attention.
This isn’t always the case and I have helped people drive while they’re in a bad relationship. There is no way of telling for sure before we start so you’d have to carefully consider whether or not you want to take the risk of this working.
You can learn more about how past events become driving anxiety on my page How To Overcome Driving Anxiety
Getting help with relationship issues
I suggest finding a therapist with a proven track record in helping people with relationships. Look for video testimonials from clients along with videos of them working to see if they’re right for you.
A counsellor is often the best option in these situations.
If you find that you consistently pick the wrong person and are often ending up in bad relationships, it could be because of the next section regarding ACE scores and Childhood Attachment Trauma.
The mind likes what feels safe and familiar. If abuse was familiar to you as a child you may subconsciously look for a partner that will abuse you to fulfill that need.
High ACE scores
ACE stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences which can lead to something called Childhood Attachment Trauma (CAT).
You can take an ACE test here to get your score out of 10 (opens in a new tab).
I won’t say what I consider a higher score to be but my experience shows that people with higher ACE scores are unlikely to get a result from my therapy. This is because your unresolved childhood issues are often what the driving anxiety is. You often need to work on those to fix the driving issue.
Working with childhood issues
It’s very common to have a single childhood event come up in therapy, even a few of them. The difference with events from higher ACE scores is that they are each more complex than simple events. That means can take much longer to work through. Sometimes you can’t even get to the events and need to do work just to be able to find them.
This is not always the case and I have helped people overcome their driving issues even when they have a high ACE score. Even when it works though, you need to be aware that to fully resolve the childhood issues would take longer than my short course allows and even if we fix your driving, the childhood issues would likely remain. You may not even notice them though and some people are fine with that so long as their driving is fixed.
It’s your choice if you want to proceed with my therapy when you have a higher ACE score but be advised it is less likely to be successful.
Examples of working with childhood score clients
Client A got lost in a museum as a child. It scared them and years later that feeling came back as driving anxiety.
Client B suffered years of ongoing abuse from their parents which brings up huge amounts of emotion.
I can help client A by finding the memory of being lost and working through it. It’s an isolated event with nothing too serious attached to it.
I can’t help client B because we can’t get past the childhood trauma. The driving anxiety may now be wrapped up in the other problems and it can take regular sessions of therapy over many months to resolve those issues.
The therapy on childhood issues would most likely also resolve the driving issue. If not it would make it possible to now work on the fear of driving without the other things getting in the way.
Problems from high ACE scores are known as Childhood Attachment Trauma.
How childhood problems work (Childhood Attachment Trauma)
Help with Childhood Attachment Trauma
For higher ACE scores I recommend finding a therapist who is experienced in dealing specifically with Childhood Attachment Trauma.
Look for videos of them working and talking about it. It’s important to find someone you feel comfortable with. Be sure to have a consultation and ask any questions you like.
